Let's Get Through It Together - Month Seven
I am moving to another state and will have to make new friends at a new school. Can you give me any advice on ways to break the ice?
Join some fun extracurricular
activities as soon as possible. That way, you’ll immediately meet
people who are interested in the same things as you are. Be as friendly
and open-minded as you can be about everyone in your new school. Don’t
be afraid to introduce yourself to someone you’d like to get to
know in your class and ask him or her what it’s like to live in
your area, what there is to do and where to hang out. If that goes well,
you might ask him or her to your house for dinner and a video. And keep
your chin up if you get lonely. Eventually, you’ll fit in and
feel at home.
Run! You didn’t
say how old you are, but if you’re under 18, legally, this man
is molesting you if he’s touching you in sexual ways. Even if
the feeling is mutual, and even if you’re flattered by his attention,
take my advice and find someone your age. It’s not bad to date
guys a COUPLE of years older, but until you are an adult, a relationship
with someone THIS much older is bound to have problems. This man may
be taking advantage of you so you also might want to consider telling
your parents about the whole situation.
My parents are divorced, and my dad takes my brothers and me on weekends. My dad is a different religion than I am. Not too long ago, I told him that I don’t want to go to church anymore. He told me that if I don’t go, he doesn’t want to see me. What should I do?
in a tough situation where your dad, unfortunately, is the one acting
like a child. I would explain to him that you love and respect him and
want to spend time with him, but you don’t feel right participating
in his religion when you don’t believe in it. Tell him that you’d
like to keep your relationship and his religious beliefs separate. Hopefully
he’ll get your perspective. If he still is adamant about forcing
you to go to meetings and you truly are against it, you are going to
have to deal with the fact that your relationship will be strained or
even non-existent for a while until he accepts you as you are. Good
Have you talked
with your parents about how worried you are? Maybe you can transfer
to a safer school. If that’s not possible, or if your parents
won’t help you, perhaps there’s a safety program at school
you’re not aware of. Or talk to your friends and see if they’re
afraid also. Maybe, with a teacher’s or counselor’s help,
you can contact your local police department and start a program that
will help you take back the neighborhood from the bad guys.
This sounds like a job for your parents, since you simply don’t have authority over your friend. Your parents need to talk to her parents and see what they think the right solution is. As far as your friendship goes, just try to be understanding and find out what motivates her to do the things she’s doing. Then ask what you can do to get her through these rough times.
Go straight to your principal with a bunch of witnesses, i.e. friends and, hopefully, a teacher or two, and complain. If these guys are as bad as you say, there’s no reason why you can’t get them kicked out of school permanently. That’s why there are extension schools -- to get kids with social problems out of the school system, educated and back on track. If the principal won’t take control, talk to your parents and/or the police. If these guys are sexually abusing people, they should be arrested.
Yep, you’re right, she’s using you. Do yourself a favor and dump her -- at least as a study partner. Find friends who are just as smart as you and who won’t try to get a free ride schoolwork-wise.
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