Let's Get Through It Together - Month Six
My teacher keeps touching my breasts. I have him for three classes, plus gym. To make matters worse, my parents are good friends with him and his wife, so I babysit his kid. I’m scared if I resist he might rape me.
Your teacher is
sexually harassing you. You MUST tell your parents exactly what’s
been going on -- right away. If you can’t talk to your parents,
tell another teacher, a family member or a minister. If there isn’t
anyone you feel close enough to talk to, look in the telephone book
yellow pages under “Child Abuse Information and Treatment”
or “Crisis Intervention Services” and call someone there.
I can tell you right now it’s going to be painful to deal with
this, but you do not deserve what this man is doing to you, and you
must stop him. He’s probably doing the same thing to other girls.
Please, get help as soon as you can.
I don’t know,
have you talked to your mom or friends about it? Everyone has SOME hair
on their upper lip. See what they think. [A note from the gals at BOP:
Jolene Creme Facial Bleach, which you can get at any drugstore, works
miracles. Or go to a salon and check out other options, like waxing
There’s this boy in school who really likes me and who’s really nice. I’m interested in him, but there are rumors around school that he’s gay. I know they’re not true, but I don’t know if I should go out with him or not. I’m afraid of the gossip.
Who cares what
people say? You’re probably in junior high, which is a couple
years of your life where every guy in school is called a “fag”
at some point or another. Go out with the guy if you like him!
This is really
a difficult situation, because you are being very logical and your mom
isn’t. Most parents would kill to have kids with grades as good
as yours. Try asking her why it’s so important that your grades
are perfect, and ask what she thinks you should do differently from
what you’re doing now. Then try again, telling her that you’ve
done your absolute best, and that you can’t be compared to your
brother and sister because you aren’t them. If all else fails,
maybe your dad or another family member can talk with her for you. By
the way, if you’re trying to get into a good college, an A- average
is just about as good as an A average. The difference shouldn’t
hurt you, especially if you’re into extracurricular activities
like drama, student government or band.
It sounds like your dad wants to make amends for his life. But if you don’t feel comfortable being a part of that, you don’t have to be. Talk with your mom and stepdad and see what they have to say about the situation. If you (or they) feel he would act strangely or violently if you asked him to let your stepdad adopt you, then I would avoid meeting him. If you decide to start a relationship with him, you could write or call him instead of meeting him in person, which actually might be the best way. Most of all, don’t feel pressured to do anything that makes you uneasy.
Oh Liz, Liz, Liz, Liz! Can’t you see that you aren’t looking to relieve pressure, but just to fit in with this guy? If you really want to get rid of stress, try exercise. Better yet, talk to your English teacher about why she thinks you have an attitude problem. And for heaven’s sake, leave your Walkman at home. As far as this guy goes, forget him. If he’s really into drugs, he’s going to like them more than he’ll ever like you.
There is still a
big part of you that doesn't want to commit suicide. Have that side of
yourself come forward to talk with someone -- anyone -- quick. There are
many hotlines with people who care in your phone book. Look under "Suicide
Prevention" or call one of the numbers on this page. You should also
know that your thoughts are very common. I don't know too many people
who haven't contemplated the same thing. Sometimes suicide seems easier
than facing reality, but that doesn't mean reality won't change or get
better for you. Life is often a serious pain in the butt, but it's definitely
better than the alternative. Whatever you do, please get help before doing
anything drastic. Good luck in working things out. And cut this out and
put it in your wallet in case you feel bad again.
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